Belonging, Learning, and Contributing Checklist
Developing a sense of belonging, learning, and contributing can help
your child develop healthy self-esteem. Use this brief checklist as a
daily reminder for yourself.
Belonging
Every day, I will show my child that he or
she belongs.
- I let my child know (in at least two ways) that
I love him or her.
- I looked at the list of my child's good
qualities that is posted on my refrigerator. I added one or more qualities, if
needed.
- I praised my child at least two times as often (or more)
as I made negative comments.
- I listened to my child's concerns and
problems and identified his or her feelings, if needed.
- We had
family time today or we have family time planned for this week.
At least once a week, I will have my child
involved in structured activities with his or her peers.
Learning
At least once a week, I will create a
learning opportunity for my child.
- My child had at least one fun learning
experience this week.
- I let my child try the learning experience
without taking over for him or her.
- It was a complex task, so we
broke it down into small steps.
- I praised my child for his or her
efforts.
- We planned a time to practice the new skill again, if
needed.
Contributing
Every day, I will let my child know that he
or she is contributing in some way.
- We posted our list of family rules(What is a PDF document?) in a spot
that helps remind all of us.
- I showed respect for my child in one
way today.
- My child has a list of chores that he or she is
responsible for. My child understands how to do those chores and the
consequences of not doing them.
- We scheduled a regular family
meeting (if your family members have agreed to have meetings).
- I
made one statement or did one thing to show my child that he or she is part of
our family.
- I held my child accountable for his or her choices,
behavior, and responsibilities. I enforced the natural or logical consequences,
when needed.
- I told my child at least once today that I appreciated
something cooperative that he or she had done.
Credits
| By | Healthwise Staff |
| Primary Medical Reviewer | Susan C. Kim, MD - Pediatrics |
| Specialist Medical Reviewer | Louis Pellegrino, MD - Developmental Pediatrics |
| Last Revised | April 6, 2012 |