Skip to main navigation Skip to main content Skip to footer For Medicare For Providers For Brokers For Employers Español For Individuals & Families: For Individuals & Families Medical Dental Other Supplemental Explore coverage through work How to Buy Health Insurance Types of Dental Insurance Open Enrollment vs. Special Enrollment See all topics Shop for Medicare plans Member Guide Find a Doctor Log in to myCigna
Home Knowledge CenterHelping Children Cope During Deployment

Helping Children Cope During Deployment

What is the best way to prepare a child for a parent’s deployment?

Children need to know what to expect. Be clear and honest, but keep their needs in mind. Children of all ages need to feel safe and secure. They need to know what will change and what will stay the same. Children want to know how long this change will last. You may have to answer the same questions many times. If deployment will change a child’s life in a major way, such as moving, living with grandparents, or changing childcare, school or activities, the child needs to be a part of the conversation.

How can parents talk to children about military deployment?

It’s important to talk to children in a calm and reassuring way. Be honest and consider your child’s age. Share at a level they can understand. Take time to learn what your child fears. Do your best to talk directly about those fears. Safety of the parent being deployed is often a worry. It’s important to let a child know that the deployed parent is trained to do their job.

How do children signal their distress?

Stress affects children like it does adults. Children may complain of headaches or stomach problems. They may have trouble with sleep. They may be moody, irritable, act out, or have low energy. You could see big reactions to small problems, such as stubbing a toe. It can be hard sometimes to sort out normal distress and more serious problems. If in doubt, talk to your child’s doctor.

How should school problems be handled?

Alert your child’s teacher that a parent is being deployed. If your child has had behavior problems in the past, it’s especially important to have the teacher track any issues. If problems do develop, talk to your child, your child’s teacher, and other school staff as needed to agree on a plan. Your child may need more support in this situation. You can call your Employee Assistance Program (EAP) to talk about what is happening and how to handle it.

How can you help a child stay connected to a deployed parent?

Use all means available to connect as often as possible. Being able to talk to and see a parent is valuable, if the option is available. But children also enjoy collecting items for a care package or writing letters. While the routine of a regular call offers stability, be careful not to set up disappointment. A deployed parent may not be able to meet a schedule.

Tags

Fear

Related

Staying Connected with Family Members During Deployment How to Help Children Cope with Grief and Loss Reintegration Process after Returning from Deployment

Back to Knowledge Center

This material is provided by Cigna for informational/educational purposes only. It is not medical/clinical advice. Only a health care professional can make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment plan. For more information about your behavioral health coverage, you can call the customer service or the behavioral health telephone number listed on your health care identification card.

Page Footer

I want to...

Get an ID card File a claim View my claims and EOBs Check coverage under my plan See prescription drug list Find an in-network doctor, dentist, or facility Find a form Find 1095-B tax form information View the Cigna Glossary Contact Cigna

Audiences

Individuals and Families Medicare Employers Brokers Providers

Secure Member Sites

myCigna member portal Health Care Provider portal Cigna for Employers Client Resource Portal Cigna for Brokers

Cigna Company Information

About Cigna Company Profile Careers Newsroom Investors Suppliers Third Party Administrators International Evernorth

 Cigna. All rights reserved.

Privacy Legal Product Disclosures Cigna Company Names Customer Rights Accessibility Non-Discrimination Notice Language Assistance [PDF] Report Fraud Sitemap

Disclaimer

Individual and family medical and dental insurance plans are insured by Cigna Health and Life Insurance Company (CHLIC), Cigna HealthCare of Arizona, Inc., Cigna HealthCare of Illinois, Inc., Cigna HealthCare of Georgia, Inc., Cigna HealthCare of North Carolina, Inc., Cigna HealthCare of South Carolina, Inc., and Cigna HealthCare of Texas, Inc. Group health insurance and health benefit plans are insured or administered by CHLIC, Connecticut General Life Insurance Company (CGLIC), or their affiliates (see a listing of the legal entities that insure or administer group HMO, dental HMO, and other products or services in your state). Accidental Injury, Critical Illness, and Hospital Care plans or insurance policies are distributed exclusively by or through operating subsidiaries of Cigna Corporation, are administered by Cigna Health and Life Insurance Company, and are insured by either (i) Cigna Health and Life Insurance Company (Bloomfield, CT); (ii) Life Insurance Company of North America (“LINA”) (Philadelphia, PA); or (iii) New York Life Group Insurance Company of NY (“NYLGICNY”) (New York, NY), formerly known as Cigna Life Insurance Company of New York. The Cigna name, logo, and other Cigna marks are owned by Cigna Intellectual Property, Inc. LINA and NYLGICNY are not affiliates of Cigna.

All insurance policies and group benefit plans contain exclusions and limitations. For availability, costs and complete details of coverage, contact a licensed agent or Cigna sales representative. This website is not intended for residents of New Mexico.

Selecting these links will take you away from Cigna.com to another website, which may be a non-Cigna website. Cigna may not control the content or links of non-Cigna websites. Details